The School Years to Year 6
Jenny hasn't read the previous diary entry since writing it. Little did she know what she was in for after those anecdotes, and being philosophical, she thinks that was probably a good thing.
To continue on from where Jenny left off...
Jessica 'graduated' from FECS at Disability Services and was referred on to the special education playgroup which was a part of the school Jenny taught at, though located on a separate campus. She knew the teachers and had visited the unit when she was interested in becoming a visually impaired teacher.
The first step was an application for enrolment. This process was to see if Jessica was sufficiently delayed. It didn't take long to receive the acceptance letter in the mail. At the time Joe and Jenny were also taking her to their church playgroup. The year Jessica began in the special ed. playgroup, the unit was moved to the special school. Jenny still remembers how scared she felt that first morning as she stood in front of the school, baby in hand. The school looked like a prison with the locked gates and multiple fences. It didn't seem welcoming at all.
With a deep breath Jenny entered and was warmly welcomed which helped put her at ease. The playgroup was highly structured with gross motor, fine motor, sensory and language activities. Other families joined and Jenny has maintained these friendships.
From playgroup Jessica moved to Pre-Prep. She attended the special school class and the local C&K kindergarten where her older siblings had gone. There had been no barriers or gatekeepers at the kindy and Jessica was welcomed with open arms.
Pre-Prep was a positive experience for Jessica, though Jenny and Joe quickly saw a difference in the two settings. At the special school Jessica was in a group with boys who had autism and were nonverbal. She quickly began to mimick their behaviours and wouldn't speak while she was in the classroom. She was also asking for help constantly and not doing the things Jenny and Joe knew she could do. The special school teacher also seemed to be obsessed with her toileting and bowel movements. The C&K kindy gave Joe and Jenny the impression that they were interested in Jessica as a whole child. Like at the special. ed. school she mimicked the children there. The difference being the children spoke and used the toilet... so that's what Jessica did. Basically Jessica was doing so much more in the mainstream setting. The kindy wanted Jessica to write her name, sit on the carpet for lessons, and do what the other children were doing, which was so much more than the children at the special school. They also did gross and fine motor activities and worked on routines for preparing her for school.
At the end of Pre-Prep Joe and Jenny had a decision to make. They could send Jessica to the special school, they could repeat Pre-Prep, or they could send her to the local mainstream school for Prep. That was the school where Jenny taught and Jessica's siblings went.
On reflection this should have been a no-brainer based on what Jenny has written, but at the time it was a really difficult decision. There was no one to talk to and they wanted the best for their daughter. Should they hold her back? Would she cope in mainstream school? Most children with DS go to the special school, so was that the best place for her?... So many thoughts. So many questions. Joe and Jenny wrote down the pros and cons of each setting, but still they weren't prepared to jump fully into one.
They decided against holding her back at kindy. That left the option of special or mainstream and they couldn't decide. Fortunately at that time there was the option of a dual placement so the child could test the waters in both settings. The principal at Jenny's school was very supportive and positive about having Jessica and her Prep teacher was happy as well. By the end of the first week of Prep Jessica had told her parents where she wanted to be. She only wanted to be at the school with her mum, sister and brother.
That first year was a learning year for Jenny and Joe, and the school. No child with Down syndrome had ever been enrolled, but there had been many children with autism and a few other disabilities. Jessica posed some challenges as a runner and having a stubborn streak. She needed to be kept an eye on at play time and a temporary fence was constructed so Jessica couldn't run up the side of a classroom and onto the road that led into the school, and as her parents didn't want her wearing a fluoro vest or any other type of 'making her different' clothing item, her name was written in big letters on the top brim of her hat. The playground and sandpit being located outside of the classroom was always a problem as Jessica would rather be playing in and on them than in the classroom. A counting back from 5 strategy was introduced which Jenny and Joe also used at home. The children in her class embraced Jessica, though tended to mother her and want to do everything for her. The teacher ended up having a system where she would put all the names of the children in a container and would pull out the name of Jessica's helper for the day - this seemed to stop some of the mothering. Jessica though learnt early on that if she acted helpless, others would do the work for her.
For Jessica to receive extra funding for support she needed to be verified during the Prep year. Joe and Jenny were okay with that, and she received the label as Intellectually Disabled (ID).
At the end of Prep Joe and Jenny had to make another decision. Should Jessica repeat or should they send her on? She had made some progress in Prep and was understanding how school worked. Any concepts or facts that were attached to a song, she remembered. (Over time Joe and Jenny realised this was the main way she learnt). They decided on sending her on to Year One as another year in Prep would not have benefited her a lot, and she was with a very caring cohort of children, and that might not be so the following year. And as it was, some of the children went through all of her 7 years of primary school with her and looked out for her the whole way through.
Year One was a problem from the end of Prep when children were allocated to classes. The teacher Jessica was designated to did not want her as she was studying her Masters and felt she wouldn't have time to prepare for Jessica. Jenny was most offended, as she did not think a colleague would say this. It hurt. Jenny went to the deputy-principal to sort the situation out. He told the teacher she was having Jessica as the other classroom being an open plan was not safe for Jessica to be in. So that was that. It was difficult. Parents may think teachers who have their children at a school have their choice of teacher... not always so. Jenny's classroom was directly opposite which the teacher probably found uncomfortable. Most people remember the year Jessica was in Year One because of the baby gate in the doorway, which by the end of year Jessica had mastered to open! Now this year didn't end up being all negative, as the teacher attended the Down syndrome Queensland teachers' conference. She saw how well Jessica was doing and realised why her parents had Jessica enrolled in mainstream school. She came back from the conference with a change in attitude and tried much harder with Jessica. It was wonderful to see. Jessica progressed in many areas.
By the end of Prep Jessica was being noticed by the school community, and during Year One attitudes were being challenged. Jenny and Joe noticed a change in people's perceptions of DS when they were hearing, 'she's so good', after Jessica's class performances at assembly. Jenny and Joe would just smile and think, Go Jess! As Jessica was a runner, parents and the tuckshop helpers would keep an eye out for her and if she was somewhere she shouldn't be they would tell someone, or Jenny.
Jenny reminisces that her most stressful memory from Year One was the time Jessica went missing. Jenny was on playground duty and two children from Jessica's class came to ask her if she'd seen Jessica. She hadn't. The search was on... where was she? Jenny's heart pounded and all her worst fears were being lived out in her head as people searched the school and the nearby creek and nearby streets. In the end Jessica was found hiding in a classroom. Jenny didn't know whether to hug her or go mad at her!
In Year One Jenny started going to CRU (
Through these five years there were two special education teachers who supported Jessica and the classroom teachers. One in particular did not give in to Jessica's stubborn nature, and made her expectations known to Jessica. Jessica didn't like being made to work but we appreciated it.
Year Five. At the beginning of the year Jenny explained her concerns and expectations to the teacher. The teacher was enthusiastic, had taught Year One previously so had plenty of resources at Jessica's level, and rose to the challenge. She would not let Jessica get away with not working, she implemented inclusive practices and tried really hard to help Jessica. Jenny breathed a sigh of relief. Finally. Jessica still tried it on but was progressing because she was doing the work. The teacher loved to show Jenny and Joe, Jessica's accomplishments - it was so refreshing. 2017 was a wonderful year.
The final year of primary school - Year Six. Again Joe and Jenny were blessed with a teacher who understood inclusion and wanted Jessica to learn and progress. This teacher had a fantastic relationship with Jessica and if she asked Jessica to do something, she would do it. Once Jenny knew things were going well, she stayed away from the classroom, like the other Year Six parents. The aim for Jessica was to have an ordinary life, and this was part of it. Other children and parents would tell Jenny and Joe things that were happening so if they heard something Jenny would go and investigate. She had an informal meeting with the teacher three times during the year. These meetings were always positive and the teacher would show Jenny the work Jessica was doing. Joe and Jenny were appreciative for what this teacher was able to achieve with their daughter.
Jessica's passions have always been singing and acting. So through school that is what Jenny and Joe encouraged. She joined the choir in Year Two and continued to be involved in it to the end of Year Six, performing at school and in competitions. In regards to acting, she was involved in all concerts and musicals. In Year Six she also had one of the main roles. Her parents encouraged her to play the sports that were offered and in Year Six she played interschool sport. Jessica attended all excursions and camp, and basically whatever the other children were doing, Jessica was doing too. Jenny and Joe just had to ensure she was being supported where the support was necessary. By Year Six Jessica was independent the majority of the time.
Jessica likes her own company, so this was something that Jenny and Joe had to address as Jessica was quite happy to spend all her lunchtimes in the special ed. unit away from her classmates. Without teacher intervention she would not have made friends or interacted fully with her peers, once she reached the middle and upper years. Her Year Five and Six teachers were very good at keeping an eye on her friendships and making sure she didn't spend too much time in the special ed centre at lunchtimes (she was allowed to go but not every break). Even though Jenny knew children were looking out for Jessica, most of the time the children did not seek her out to play with. And as she approached the middle and upper years, the birthday party invitations became few and far between. Jenny noticed in Year Six particularly, that Jessica would be following girls around, she was never with the girls included in their conversations. She never truly had a best friend. This is something Jenny hopes will happen in high school.
Jessica received awards all through her schooling for academic, social and behaviour, and in Year Six received two Principal breakfasts and the Superstar award (both awards Joe and Jenny were told in previous years she would never achieve). Jessica was also given a leadership position in Year Six (which proved the Guidance Officer wrong). If Jessica really wanted to do something she would achieve it.
In summary, with all the ups and downs on the road to inclusion, what is Jenny's advice for you?
1. Learn about what is and isn't inclusion.
2. Have a vision for your child and hold onto it.
3. Be prepared for antiquated attitudes and even prejudice, because they're still rife.
4. Try and maintain a respectful relationship with your child's teacher, even if you're not happy with them.
5. Know the disability laws and education department policy. You may need to use these at some stage when you are defending your right to have your child in mainstream school.
6. Be part of the community so you have fellow parents watching out for your child and they will let you know if things are happening that you should be aware of.
7. Be on the P&C if you can or help out in the school in some way.
8. Go and see the teacher, and ask to see your child's work. Don't wait for the teacher to contact you as they may not.
9. Have high expectations for your child, and expect the child's teacher to also have them.
11. Don't focus on your child's deficits, focus on their strengths. Ensure they are included in all school activities e.g. excursions, camps etc. and if they are have a talent, make sure they are in those activities too e.g. choir, musicals, sport.
12. Remember your own self-care. You must look after yourself and be kind to yourself.